I'm a Better Parent than You, and I Don't Have Children.
Stop me if you've heard this one. Ok, there's this kid. 2 kids actually. They get really mad, grab some guns, pipe bombs, and propane bombs, and go terrorize a school killing many and then take their own lives. What do you see afterwards? The parents pleading innocence. "It's that music they listen to! That Marilyn Manson! And those violent video games!"
I speak of columbine. first of all, those 2 kids HATED marilyn manson. go look it up. they liked techno and industrial rock. they liked rammstein (which as far as i know has never openly stated that violence is a good thing other than in a tongue-in-cheek manner). Let me bring you to the reality: YOU'RE A DUMBASS! This "parent" as she claims to be, is little more than a sheep coated in ignorance. I'm sorry, but eric harris was a PSYCHOPATH and almost everyone knew it. I can guarantee you my mom knew every damn thing I was capable of at his age... Why didn't his mom know? It's called taking a fucking interest in your kids and not being naive.
But nevermind that, let's let you off the hook and blame music, movies, and video games for everything. Do they help entice? Yes, but I have a different theory. Check it out:
You're either psychotic enough to go kill a bunch of people, or you're not. Nothing you read, watch, or hear will change that.
It's like suddenly the whole world doesn't hold parents accountable for their children. If you knew someone who had an out of control dog that is capable of attacking other dogs or people despite obedience training, that dog is crazy and needs to be put down. No different with people, except that you can't put them down. You CAN, however, put them in a facility where they can't hurt anybody.
If this "mother" of eric harris knew anything about her kid, she'd have recognized his pathological lying tendency, as well as many other signs. read his site, check his stuff... check what he's into. I'm sorry parents, is that prying into your children's privacy? Well what the hell do they have to hide?! If they have to hide it, it must not be RIGHT then is it?
also, explain to me what the deal is with the new trend of parents that like to put their kid in charge? I'll listen to their kid say something absolutely horrendous, and they'll chuckle because it sounds cute to hear a child say something vulgar. This isn't an R-rated comedy movie.
Isn't that cute? It's cute because it's a little kid saying it right? NO! that kid just called you, an adult, an asshole! while funny coming from friends or some dumbass commenter on youtube, it's not funny coming from some little shit that doesn't realize who he needs to respect. I'm the boss, you piss ant. I don't take shit from anyone, not even a little toddler.
This is wrong parents. Your children aren't cute when they do this. They're rude. You giggle and laugh and encourage this behavior now, and then you wonder why they've got a pack of smokes and a bottle of vodka hidden in their room when they turn 10 years old. It's because you're easily manipulated.
also, no, you do NOT let your kid decide shit. if it's what movie THEY wanna watch, fine, but when it comes to things like what we're all having for dinner, no, it's not up to the kid, unless you've truly run out of ideas. "this is what we're having, and you'll eat it, or go to bed early." it's simple manners. you went to the trouble of cooking something for someone, and they totally ignore it and go do something else. that's rude. sit down, eat the meal, enjoy it. you don't have to eat it all, but eat enough of it to be polite to the chef. respect, even if you aren't hungry. hell, if you aren't hungry, at least TASTE it and comment on it, while letting people know you're not hungry. spend time with the people eating.
I also see parents do the STUPIDEST thing in grocery stores: letting their kid pick out candy from the candy rack. No. NO NO NO. You do that on a holiday or something, fine. but not "oh for the hell of it." go buy a bag of candy bars and give it to 'em at home. Otherwise your kid makes a scene in the store because "you won't give me candy!!!!!" and because of left-wing assholes of today, some kids that need a back-hand don't get one. quite frankly, you're gonna act like a jerk, then you're gonna get treated like one. I knew better than to cry over something like that. If I did, I'd get punished painfully. I could tantrum in my room all i wanted, but don't you DARE make a scene in the store. just like in real life. you see? my parents DID know what the hell they're doing!
I've seen parents wait on their kids hand and foot. get with the program, idiots. You're the adult. You make the rules. You're the law. You have the job, and you provide the clothes, food, video games, and roof over their heads, and they WILL learn respect, even at the cost of their own pride. It's not up to you to always make sure your kid is at their happiest. At some point, they need to learn to take the situation they have, be thankful for it, and find a way to be happy. Welcome to real life.
Take an interest in what you're kid's into. Be open about it. Your kid wants to try cigarettes, or admits to trying them, don't go nutso on 'em. tell them about the last time you tried it, and why you'd rather not do it. What about drugs? They ask you about marijuana, you show them pictures of aging hippies and say "i didn't smoke weed because I didn't want to wind up like this joke right here. nobody will take you seriously, and you'll be considered some useless pothead for the rest of your life. avoid it. people with problems are people who go to this stuff. you're better than this."
And here's the hardest one parents have trouble with: let your kid take the hit! You know, a lot of times you can't exactly explain WHY they shouldn't do something. "don't touch the stove... it's hot. it will hurt." they do it anyway. they burn themselves, and then you get the water and cool their hand off, get the burn cream, and state "didn't I tell you?" yes, that seems inhumane, but how else were they going to learn:A. what a burn feels like, and B. parents know what the hell they're talking about, so you'd best listen up if you wanna survive in one piece.
I knew some kids that had the "take the hit" treatment, while others had not. there was a ladder nearby. they wanted to play on it. the "take the hit" kids knew that ladder was dangerous. why? probably because they've fallen and hit the ground multiple times after trying things they shouldn't have. the kids who didn't know any better? climbing right up the ladder, only to fall off. the "hit" kids were quite smart. "we knew better than to go near that thing. it looked dangerous." (translation: that thing causes pain. we know what pain is, and we don't like it). the other kids? "i didn't know!" (translation: i'm so freakin pampered that i'm helpless!).
toughen your kids up, teach them the easy way by introducing the hard way, and above all else, talk to your kids and be active in their lives. so many parents just don't take an interest. they become "ugh, the PARENTS" to their kids, and then the kids get raised by the neighborhood while the parents stay blissfully ignorant of their child's presence.
There. I think that about does it. I'm not even a parent myself, and already I've written an article that's better than Parents who hate parenting: the latest trend". Maybe you should have spent less time, Lylah, on the bad parents and more time on how the media and culture allows it with their liberal thinking. Parents are always the problem. not the kids.
I'll give you an example. I was at a sheetz the other day. sheetz is a gas station. There was kind of a long line. This one girl, about 13, was standing in line with candy she was gonna buy. her mom popped in the door and said "let's GO! now!" "but mom, i'm just gettin this, i'll be done real quick!" "no, we're going NOW!" what does she do? banter with her mom some more, then cut in line and act like nobody noticed. and the mom just stands there and lets it happen. and then she finishes and leaves. everyone is attacking this ill-mannered child. what do i do? i proclaim "don't blame the kid, blame the SHITTY PARENTING!" The mom shoots me a dirty look before leaving. U mad, lady? Problem? ;D The rest of the people in line are shaking their heads and smiling, because they know I'm right. and of course they know I'm right. I'm hylianux. I'm always right.
Clearly this parent taught this kid that acting like this is not punished, or has no consequences. In fact, she learned that acting this way is ok, and allows her to get what she wants. PARENT problem.
Clearly the candy parent taught their kid that it's ok to act like a basket case in the store when they want something.
Clearly the "asshole" parent taught their kid that it's ok to say vulgar rude things to people.
Clearly the psycho parent taught their kid that adults are morons and manipulating them is easy, easy enough to get around them so you can kill a bunch of people.
parents parents parents. wake up america, about 85% of you are completely inept parents. stop hiding behind the news' shit log. the problem is YOU! Put your kid back in their place: beneath you where they belong.